May 19, 2021Member-onlyWhen My Siblings CallEvery morning, even before my three children clamor for their breakfast, my phone pings with the words “Danny” and “FaceTime.” It’s my 29-year-old brother. Over the last 12 years, we have been working to repair what our mother broke: our ability to be traditional siblings. I was 25 when our…Family5 min readFamily5 min read
Feb 17, 2020Member-onlyCaught In Between The Aisles: A Marital ConundrumCaught In Between The Aisles: A Marital Conundrum The last time I took my 4-year-old twin daughters into a store, they knocked over the entire display while I waited in line to checkout. The entire display case…chapsticks and travel size bottles of Tylenol aimlessly roamed around the floor, thanks to…Marriage4 min readMarriage4 min read
Nov 13, 2019Member-onlyThey tell me I nag.They tell me I nag. They tell me I am too quick to finish tasks. They tell me how they’ve forgotten my request to do chores or to return an overdue library book. They are my son and my wife. …Adhd3 min readAdhd3 min read
Published inP.S. I Love You·Nov 7, 2019Member-onlyShe Speaks: When Your Partner Preaches On Sunday MorningMy wife stood in front of a congregation full of people last Sunday morning and told a story to them about our marriage. In front of parishioners, in front of a church she serves in, she ripped a bandaid off of an old wound in our marriage. …Christianity2 min readChristianity2 min read
Oct 29, 2019Member-onlyWhen Your Child Sleeps With You: What Every Parent Needs To KnowMy daughter barrels over me, scaling my belly, over my hip, and snuggles up against my back. She throws her arm around my waist in search of my hand to hold. Soon I hear the soft hum of her snore. She is 4 years old. She does this every single…Sleep2 min readSleep2 min read
Oct 15, 2019Member-onlyRaising Black Kids in the #MeToo and #BlackLivesMatter Era“I am scared of the dark,” is how my daughters often begin their bedtime routine. They tell me at every stage of their night routine that they are scared of: the dark, of something hiding underneath the bed, of the shadows that dance against the walls, of the closed doors…Parenting5 min readParenting5 min read
Published inP.S. I Love You·Oct 9, 2019Member-onlyShe Sings: My Daughter Gave Me Courage To Sing My Own SongShe sings. She sings no matter the time of day or who is around. She sings regardless of whether or not she is in tune (though she is usually off). My 4-year-old daughter gives me courage. Her tunes are ones she’s picked up along the way during her day: to/from…Life3 min readLife3 min read
Published inP.S. I Love You·Oct 7, 2019Member-onlyA Little Magic: Lessons Learned In The LibraryMy children and I walked into a local library, trying to kill time between our back to back church services over the weekend. With my unusually loud, twin daughters in tow and hyper-focused-gotta-find-all-the-books tween ahead of us, I made my way up the newly renovated stairs of the library and…Books4 min readBooks4 min read
Oct 2, 2019Member-onlySleep Warrior: A Mommy On A MissionI write this sitting in bed, with my twin daughters. They are trying, rather hard to will themselves to sleep. It is 8pm on Tuesday night and I’ve lost all ability to remain sane. I have all but jumped in with them as they wallow in their 4 year old…Parenting3 min readParenting3 min read
Sep 24, 2019Member-onlyMoms Don’t Quit: What Shonda Rhimes’s Memoir Taught MeI laughed out loud many times while reading Shonda Rhimes’s Year of Yes. It is funny. She is funny. She is my new girl crush (I’ve not told my wife yet, so, this fact may surprise her). Sadly, or maybe not, it’s the first book I’ve read in a long…Parenting5 min readParenting5 min read
